Monday, 30 June 2014

Belated ss from on holibobs...



'The Secret' plans...

Whilst I was away on holiday I read most of 'The Secret'. Whilst it's sort of common sense, according to my husband and whilst I didn't read it all in depth (having 2 children 3 and under put a stop to that!) I am trying to use the concepts in it a bit more. 'What does that mean?' I hear you ask. Welllll...

I want a job, starting 1st August and whilst I had been thinking about it and hopeful, I hadn't got very far. Not only does the book suggest you need to visualise and ask for things but you also need to live your life as though it's happened/ make space for it. To a certain extent I have been unable to do that in the past (or made excuses). This time I can do it. So my plan to make things happen:

1. Today I have registered at 1 agent and spoken to another. I plan to register or make appointments at 3 others (& continue to look on various sites like Monster). I will possibly also visit certain companies that I think can help with my CV.

2. Buy a 2nd pair of 'work' trousers/ a suit. Get up & dressed in such clothing from tomorrow morning, at the hour I would need to (unfortunately this will probably mean getting out of bed at the same time as or before my husband which has rarely happened in the past). Instead of lying in bed, exhausted and trying to get both girls ready. Get all our clothes ready the night before and go to bed before 11pm (a tip taken from Rachel Jonat's new book).

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3. Significantly 'get rid of' stuff in our home (for me this is to make room for a job in my life). I have set a time limit of a month. I am sick of having piles of stuff to get rid of in our home. We will also be moving house later this year and I'm not moving it all with me! It's also a new season for Project 333 at the same time as Z moves up to a new size of clothing AND we've got a lot of new clothing for the hot weather on our cruise so I plan to go through all the clothing, label the girls' clothing (as they'll be going to childcare full time so I may as well just label all their clothes with a laundry pen rather than the 1 current outfit and then getting stuck when I have to provide something else) and then there'll be some of Z's smaller clothes to get rid of... 

And finally...

Implementing what I think of as the more spiritual parts of the book. I'll leave you to read the book if it's something you're interested in (because I know it may not be for a lot of people) but I think the reason I may not have been successful in the past is belief. And negative thinking.
So this time:

I am going to get a job that starts 1st August. So I now have 1 month to get 'my house' in order & I can do that.

Sunday, 1 June 2014

My laptop has broken...

So I am having to use my mobile which isn't easy so all posts are immediate - soweeee! :/

Why my kids don't watch tv...

We have Sky & don't plan to get rid of it any time soon (bearing in mind we live in a foreign country & don't speak the languages fluently!) & I never thought it would be such a good tool when we got it, when we had kids in the future! I go through & record & series link a few programmes that I deem suitable. I'm sure this won't last forever when f hears of programmes at school but for now it works.
When she was small I did leave the tv on but at some point I heard the concept of not letting her watch & realised I was relying on tv so tried not to. I also met more friends & was able to do more activities & play dates... 

Why I don't let F watch lots of tv...
Thennnn one day I put the tv on all day- I think I wasn't feeling well - and she mucked about all day, didn't do as asked and generally misbehaved. So from then I decided she wouldn't watch tv regularly if I could help it. 

Whilst it's a conscious decision on my behalf, I don't think she's aware of that and even I don't think is aware she doesn't watch tv & maybe her friends do...

So how often does she watch tv?
Well, at weekends R and I take it in turns to have a 'lay in' and the 1 who gets up now just puts the tv on. It ended up this way, I think r started it. It works for us... She also watches an extra episode on a Monday night whilst r cuts her nails, after z has gone to bed & mummy to Krav Maga... A friend recommended this so we could cut her nails...

What does she watch?
At the moment:
Curious George - I can't remember why, but she loves this programme!
Dora the Explorer - she learns Spanish/Portuguese which in a multi cultural country & with a little girl living upstairs who looks like Dora & is Spanish, this is important. There's a large Portuguese community here & my parents (& subsequently us) are in Spain a lot so it's useful...
Doc McStuffins - INCREDIBLY politically correct & I love the message behind it! (A black family, stay at home Dad, Doctor mother, older sister & younger brother. 'Doc' is the older sister who fixes toys.)
Added recently - 
Mr Tumble - someone mentioned it's good if your child doesn't meet children that are 'different' regularly & I also want her to learn sign language a bit... She happens to love it! 
Guess How Much I Love You - just a lovely sweet programme...

When she was a baby we recorded Baby/Little Einsteins but I can't find it now.

What I don't record & why...
I deliberately don't record Peppa Pig because a friend pointed out they're mean to Daddy Pig in it. And R is a particularly awesome Daddy so I don't feel the need for my children to be told Daddy's aren't awesome. Also the same friend explained that most kids programmes are done to encourage kids to ask for certain things, which immediately put me off...

Then recently a friend mentioned she was fed up of Peppa Pig on loop on it's own channel. Well I had no such worries because I fast forward through the adverts so it's not an issue! F isn't aware that there is such a thing as Peppa Pig world in the UK so we may or may not take her one day but I'm quite happy she doesn't pester me for stuff... I don't ban her from Peppa Pig stuff, she's just oblivious to what it is, to her it's just a piggy 'oink'... 

She does like things like Hello Kitty (which I have a fight over with myself since we have a cat & I love Hello Kitty but don't like the concept) & has got into 'princesses' lately but not because of tv...

Andddd yes I have noticed she's probably not as well behaved at the weekend after a lot of tv as during the week but we can take that. Andddd lately yes she has started to ask to watch things she sees adverts for so I don't know how much longer life as we know it will last, especially with f starting precoce (preschool). But I'm happy for now...

PS.
What I forgot to say on this earlier is I don't judge or care what others do. I choose because I can, though it's hard some days. I haven't always made this choice & when z was born I relaxed it for a while and it was hard reinforcing it again. But I notice the difference immediately, was never really allowed tv when I was little & there's enough proven studies to suggest toys & imagination are much better for my children that I can manage without tv to entertain my kids mostly. 
Oops the picture of F on the shelf was from last week! :/